Something has been called to my attention, actually more like forced into my face, and it has left me shaken.
The amount of young women who see themselves as ‘fat, worthless, disgusting’ is simply… horrifying. I feel ashamed at my naivety on the depth of the subject, I did of course know that society has some harsh views on how women should look, but I never truly felt the bite in my soul of its teeth.
I have heard family members and so called friends call me fat, tell me I’d look pretty if I was ‘a little lighter’, I’ve even had a man and his date bark at me and call me a dog when I was walking eating a caramel apple.These events, although hurtful at there moments, fade quickly in my mind because I at a young age had a lot more to worry about than what my waist size was.
When you are walking the streets at two in the morning because you can’t go home in fear of fighting, and going to school the next morning in yesterdays clothes scared that someone will recognize it, it becomes hard to focus on things like body image I guess.
It brought me to tears to see these young women ripping themselves to shreds, be it with words, with razors, or by simply ravaging their bodies by purging or denying themselves the basic necessities of life. For what? All of this hate because another person who is hurting just as much, repeated what had been said to them, and repeated the cycle with the judgement of ‘fat’.
Is fat truly the most base and horrible thing a person on this planet can be? Is it truly scarier than ‘vain’, ‘shallow, ‘cruel’, ‘vindictive’?
I have never gone after someone, nor a friend, with the words fat on my lips because this is not an insult to me. I have never said ‘I’m saying this because I’m your friend but you look fat. You need to lose wieght.’ I have never condemned an acquaintance for their body shape, size, augmentations, piercings, tattoos, or any modification they may have.
It is terrifying to me to see these beautiful women tearing at themselves like there is some sort of disease within them all in the name of ‘health’.
However anyone has their bodies (and I also mean these beautiful men out there, tummy’s are just as adorable as abs) it is of NO concern of anyone else to make a rude and angry comment on it.
If you do not like that a girl likes to wear shorts that make her thighs bulge cause its a little to tight, look the fuck away.
If you are disgusted when a women has on a crop top, and maybe her rib cage doesn’t protrude and you don’t like it, then ignore it!
If a beautiful woman is a size zero, do not tell her that shes anorexic and looks like a skeleton, because it is none of your fucking business.
Hell, if a man wants to walk outside in a tight shirt, and he has a big ol’ santa claus belly, and again you don’t like it, then leave the area!
It is not up to anyone else to make you feel comfortable or happy, only you can do that for yourself.
We all have a right to wear whatever we want, wear our hair however we want, and keep our bodies however we want if we exclusively like it and it makes us feel good.
We each have our preferences for ourselves but because my preference is that I’m totally fine being a fat bitch, doesn’t mean I think every skinny woman is evil because that’s how she prefers to be.
I plead with all of you, please PLEASE, stop politicking each other’s bodies, stop deciding what is right and wrong, because everyone has a right to live exactly how they want and it is none of our business to alter how they want to live.
Learn to love yourself, and by each person taking that step to do so, we will see our younger generations growing up with self confidence and a better life because of it.
We are all beautiful be you a size zero to a size twenty eight, and it will only benefit us as human beings to realize it.